Note to self: sometimes it’s okay to be silent

Sometimes it's okay to be silent

“In the noisy confusion of life keep peace with your soul.” – Max Ehrmann

This post was inspired by the NZBloggers #BlogGreatness challenge, where every week bloggers are tasked with writing about a predetermined topic. This week’s subject is sage

I used to think the people who talked the loudest were the ones who knew the most. Now I realise the opposite may indeed be true. The wisest people I know never waste words.

The sagest of all, my gentle Grandad, says little yet manages to charm an entire room with just one sentence.

Perhaps paradoxically, this first #BlogGreatness challenge – the start of many words to come – has inspired me to create more space for quiet in my life.

Silence. It’s a rare and precious thing, in a world where we are constantly connected, where if no person is calling your name then a device is demanding your attention.

Sometimes I find myself talking for the sake of talking, almost as if I am in fear of silence, like I constantly need to fill a gap.

Could it be that we fear silence is unproductive, a waste of potential? That in that space there could be creation, contribution, something more?

But sometimes talk is just that: talk. All words, no action.

A sage woman once said:

“Others inspire us, information feeds us, practice improves our performance, but we need quiet time to figure things out, to emerge with new discoveries, to unearth original answers.” – Ester Buchholz.

I am prone to impassioned rants and I wear my heart on my sleeve, but sometimes this means I put words out to the universe that I can’t take back.

So in the spirit of the sage theme, from today I am going to actively try to be more careful with my words. Might have to go spend some more time with Grandad to learn from the best.

There’s a lot to be said for not saying much at all.

6 thoughts on “Note to self: sometimes it’s okay to be silent

  1. As someone who immensely values silence, this post speaks right to me. I think the tuned-in thoughtfulness of this, one of your shorter blogs, proves that you can say plenty with few words :-) Lovely as always.


  2. I love this. I am on holiday at the moment and really enjoying the silence around me. I think I might find more people who value quiet when I get home and don’t fill the silence with empty words.


    1. Thanks for reading Meagan! I’m glad it resonated with you… quiet time is definitely underrated. Sometimes it’s nice to just spend time with people without feeling the pressure to create great conversation. I hope you can continue to enjoy some silent moments when you return from holiday :)


  3. I really loved this. Made me think of home (my parents house) up away from the rest of the world. Quiet allows you that time to reflect, and for me personally take a step back and appreciate what I have/to look forward to! Thanks Jess :-)



    1. Hi Chloe, thank you for your kind words! I hesitated about publishing this piece. I wasn’t sure how people would respond to it. I’m so glad it resonated with you. It sounds like we all cherish our quiet spaces. Your parents house sounds amazing!


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